An electric car with an auto-pilot system, can decide to go left, right, fast and slow and a combination of all such functions in a fraction of a second and is sometimes more precise than a human, however, this aweseome auto-pilot system, is something made by the human. It can decide, but its decisions are indirectly affected by the programming the human behind it, put in it.
In the same way, your sense of self, is no more than a machine evolved in the course of billions of years, out of the nature. A machine made by genes to ensure the continuous existence of genes!
That means, you yourself are an auto-pilot system evolved out of the nature, which means when you are making a decision, endless number of processes work together so a decision comes out and when you decide, it is the whole nature deciding through you!
In fact, you are not a fully independent entity going solo all throughout life on your own. I tried my best to say it in the most simple way I could.
If anything here is not clear, please first think about it yourself and if it is not clear yet, think again till it becomes vividly clear, but if do not you agree with part of this statement, please write to me in WhatsApp.
Now let me get to the main point of what I am writing here. When you are making a decision, you need to be aware of the fact that billions of years of evolution (14.5 billion years from big bang) is behind your decision and you do not need to have to keep your muscles stiff and your mind at unrest as the same intelligence at work is still at work and you only need to ride on it rather than guide it. You just need to loosen up a little bit and the let your full possible potential get accessible and come out of you.
Rumi says:
Release your hound to hunt another prey for you!
(Persian version of the poem, in English letters: sag e khishtan raha kon ke konad shekar e digar)
It is true that you are in charge but do not forget that you do not beat your heart and it is your heart that is beating you. You just need to be aware of the fact that your sense of self is a tiny part of the whole process, so, getting out of the way is what you should be doing in the process of decision making.
Yes, you take the decision and the credit is all yours but be aware of this simple fact that you are no more than a process which is itself a tiny nod in an endless network of mega processes. This is a scientific yet transcendently comforting fact.
You may argue that if I let go and relax, it means irresponsibility by leaving your decision to an unknown process, and the reply is that, no, you do not let go of the decision making and let it be taken by no one!
No, you just do whatever is needed to take the best decision you can, however, being aware of this fact that you can never know what is best in the bigger picture and what looks like best here maybe not indeed the best when you zoom out, relieved you from excessive unnecessary pressure and in turn, it releases the potential that is stuck behind the walls of your ego!
In fact, you just let your whole self get engaged in the process by simply relaxing the nerves that would otherwise be engaged in the worrying process!
Let what is going to be the best natural outcome of the huge natural system you yourself have grown out of, come out of you.
Again I reiterate that in being a neutrally observant of the outcome while you are taking one step at a time and using all the technics you have learnt to apply to the problem at hand, you save a lot of mind energy that is required in all those literally infinite number of natural processes. In fact, you are avoiding the waste of energy.
Yes, make sure you are not passive, but be open at all the ends.